First off...NO I'M NOT MARRIED!!!!!! This is not an attempt to give advice. I have recently been discussing with my significant other and friends and so I thought I'd blog about my thoughts on having a successful marriage. Right or wrong theses are just my thoughts.
- Keep God as the head of both of your individual lives.
- Even before you get married, both people should have God at the head of their life. It is hard to have God as the head of your marriage if you haven’t made Him Lord over your personal life. Even if both people are not at the same “spiritual level”, both should have a good understanding that God is most important and number 1.
- Respect each other.
- There has to be mutual respect for one another. No matter who makes more money, no matter what the current profession is, etc. First and foremost there has to be a genuine respect for one another. No two people are alike. So there maybe things that you don’t understand about the other person, but understanding isn’t the most important thing, respecting them is. Try your hardest to understand them or “to get” them and if that doesn’t seem to work, resolve to respect that difference.
- Open Communication
- It is very important to have open communication in a marriage. Each spouse should feel comfortable turning to their spouse about anything. When things come up in your life, after God, your spouse should be the first person you turn to. Communication does not just pertain to bad things or things going wrong, but good things, when something amazing happens to you, you should feel open and free to discuss these things with your spouse. There should be equal opportunity to listen/respond to each other. No one should know more than you about what is going on with your spouse!
- Support
- Each spouse should genuinely support one another. Not just financially, but emotionally, mentally, etc. When one side is up or down the other side will follow suite. You should always be your partners open ear and arms. Be there for each other, it’s in your vows!
- Have fun.
- So many times couples forget one of the most important things in a marriage…fun! After the kids, and the mortgage, bills, work, age, weight gain, etc. we perhaps put aside that very important aspect. We have to take time away from all the seriousness of life and laugh a little…or a lot! Don’t forget…and if you have, take time to remember…what makes your spouse laugh. Think of what you used to and still enjoy doing together.
- Quality T.I.M.E
- Don’t forget to put some time aside and shut out the world and spend time together…alone. Maybe go out or just talk, not about the kids and finances... but about life, your relationship, take a trip down memory lane. Or watch a movie together while cuddling. It’s up to you! Just cut out some time to be alone…maybe a little romance!!!